People with a cluster B personality disorders lack the capacity to understand how their words and actions harm other people, including children. It’s extremely common to see them engage in words and actions that they condemn other people for doing. This is confusing and frustrating and I often hear other people talk about how this behavior doesn’t make sense. This is correct, this behavior is confusing and does not make sense. But what does make sense is that many cluster B personality types do not develop the skill of seeing things from another person’s perspective. They literally have not developed the ability to use other people as a social mirror that is useful in monitoring and adjusting one’s behavior. They are hyper focused on the behaviors of others and simply fail to see when their own behavior is potentially harmful. They just have not developed the executive brain function that allows them to see what harm they may be causing. Because they are so hyper focused on their own experience of how others affect them, they also feel like their actions are warranted. They come with a certain type of uniqueness; a belief that their behaviors are justified.
*If you are in a relationship with a cluster B or currently involved with a custody battle with a cluster B, the right kind of help is available. I can help you make adjustments in your communication that will make the process smoother. I offer individual counseling as well as custody evaluation consultation. My goal is to help bring optimal outcomes for the children involved. If this is your goal too, then give me a call at 385.202.4174 or you can email me at [email protected]