The short answer to this is that they are very maladjusted. They haven’t learned how to use logic as a way to navigate situations and problems; they use emotion. I often hear people say that they are trying to “make sense” of a cluster B and their behavior through logic and reasoning. If you try and lay out their behavior in a logical, linear equation, you’re going to feel crazy and frustrated. The truth is that they don’t use logic, they don’t seek what makes sense to navigate and function. I also find that a large contributor to their emotional instability is largely tied into their mistrust for others and tendency towards paranoid grandiosity. Their inability to take personal accountability leaves them to conclude that everything bad is the result of big conspiracies against them. They assume people are working against them even though most of the time they work against themselves. So when they fill in missing information with their assumptions, they usually assume the worst and this makes them very upset and angry.
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