This is a question that I get a lot and it’s a question I don’t like because people don’t like the answer. The short answer is, honestly, you don’t. It’s not your job to get them into their therapy, it’s their job. It’s their life, their emotions and their consequences. They are responsible for all of these things and not anybody else. One of the main reasons they are the way they are is because others haven’t used accountability when it is needed. Taking away their accountability enables their disorder. This can include circumstances when their actions have warranted legal and criminal charges. Protecting them from this only keeps them sick. Cluster B’s recover when they seek help for themselves, not when other people compel them to go to therapy. If a cluster B attends therapy and counseling to appease others, they are far less likely to recover. That’s the simple truth of it.
*If you are in a relationship with a cluster B or currently involved with a custody battle with a cluster B, the right kind of help is available. I can help you make adjustments in your communication that will make the process smoother. I offer individual counseling as well as custody evaluation consultation. My goal is to help bring optimal outcomes for the children involved. If this is your goal too, then give me a call at 385.202.4174 or you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org